They always answer any money type
questions like "wedding are so
expensive here". but really
they're not any more expensive
than any other city...they just
seem to have this complex where
they have to have a 5 course meal
with sorbet between the fish and
meat courses.
if i had this kind of meal in
denver, it would have been at least
as expensive as the prices i have
seen ny-ers post on here.
so i guess my question is...why do
ny-ers feel that they have no
choice but to have these kind of
weddings?
i have been to nyc and have friends
who live there. i have also lived
in philadelphia and
denver...i'm talking in the
city, not suburb. so my research
is done. i'm not googling
things.
i realize that prices differ
slightly, but it's not by $20
per plate or anything outrageous
like that. if you go to a chain
restaurant in one city, and then
the same restaurant in another
city, the prices are comparable to
another.
i am aware that prices fluctuate
from city to city...i'm not
stupid and have lived all over the
country. but from one big city to
another, prices of goods and
services (not housing, that's
another story) don't vary that
dramatically.
mrsgupta.
i know you are from ny and you are
probably one of these people i am
talking about...i want to know why
you feel you have to have this kind
of wedding. it's a cultural
thing in the area. why does
everyone buy into it?
as for your comparison, central nj
is not a city. you can't
compare an urban area to a suburban
area, choose another large city
like philadelphia or la and the
prices aren't that different
from nyc.
by the way, my intention isn't
to hurt anyone's feelings...i
like ny-ers. their weddings are
just over the top
shortie, i'm not mad that
these ny-ers are spending more
money on their wedding than i did.
not at all...spend as much as you
want, just don't go into debt.
i'm not jealous that you have
more to spend than i did. i spent
enough. it's just with that
area, a 5 course meal seems to be
*standard* and people from there
based the average price of a
wedding on this extravagant
meal...like it's impossible to
have a less extravagant
wedding...and i didn't
understand why. some people have
shed some light on this for me...
I am sorry to tell you but for a very basic 3 course meal (salad,
sorbet,
entree)
it is going to cost about 2 times the price as suburban areas as compared to NYC.
(Same meal in a Hilton in the city with the same amount of space is 160 per person.
In Fort lee -right over the GW
bridge- it was 102 for my brothers wedding.
This does not apply taxes)
If you do your research you would find not only are prices higher in our area for everything (peanut butter costs me 90 cents more a jar in NYC then it does in central NJ)
there is also a 6% resturant tax and a 10% sales tax applied to everything.
Which from my research is not at all the case in Denver.
In my area Hilton is a very basic reception hall,
since it is a chain it offers the more reasonable prices around here.
Northern NJ and NYC acording to most studies have some of the highest price of living in the US.
Also I think you would find people right in Boston,
LA,
etc would say the same thing.
In the middle of a big city at least on the coasts things are much more expensive compared to local suburbs.
EDIT
Though I hate to say this to you.
http://www.menupages.com/restaurantdetails.asp?areaid=0&resta-urantid=4677&neighborhoodid=25&cuisineid=0
IF you would read this other then the bad food they charge about $11.99 for a Oriental salad.
Look it up,
in central NJ its $9.00.
Now that is just a salad at applebees imagine costs for a something like a wedding.
BTW I work in the city,
grew up about 10 minutes away,
and moved to central NJ for the price.
I know the differences first hand,
not through a friend.
Also I choose to mention researching because you decided to come on here and tried to stereotype a group of people that post on this forum.
You didn't do any research you just assumed that you knew the answers without verifying them.
I think we both can agree that knowledge is not acquired through thin air it is through research.
I am sorry you disagree.
I still like all of your other answers though!
No hard feelings
:)
EDIT
ok well good question.
Also this is slowly becoming my longest answer ever!
I live 15 minutes away from Philly so frequently this is where my shopping,
and eating is done.
It is a city,
but still cheaper then what I pay daily in NYC for many things.
I eat at dave and busters in the city for work often and my dish in Philly for the same food is 2 dollars less,
I went there a few weeks ago and noticed this.
There are certain things here that are very taboo.
Cash bars for example are never done.
I have been to probably about 20 weddings that I can have clear memory of,
and never saw one.
I never even heard of the idea of a cash bar until I started using Y/A.
Also even at a place like a Hilton a cocktail hour is part of the per person charge.
You don't normally ask for these kinds of things,
they are just expected in our area.
(most of the vendors in NYC and probably most big cities charge about 10% delivery fee,
which I tried arguing down but will not budge)
Things like cocktail hour only weddings are practically unheard of.
And I literally had to research what a cake and punch reception was when I came on here.
Buffet is probably the norm around here because general it is cheaper at our venues.
So in no way am I am talking about a really high class crowd.
Also in my particular case I have a very large family that I am very close to and feel like I want to have there.
Culturally though because we do tend to be in more affluent parts of the country (the average household income where I grew up was 170,000)
certain things are expected of our weddings.
And that's what we grow up dreaming of.
So if you have the money you try to go for it,
if not you get married in Mercer county in NJ.
haha
Also my SIL went to David's bridal for her dress,
made her own invites,
the night before the wedding we did all of her flowers including centerpieces.
And the favors were potted plants we made.
Still it was about a 22,000 dollar wedding for 185 guests.
This wasn't to you.
It was to the girl down below about vera wang gowns and what not.
Oh by the way,
I am the first to say my wedding is "over the top"
as you like to say,
even though compared to many of those very large weddings in the city mine literally feels like peanuts.
Also it should be said I do so much bargain hunting my wedding literally should cost more then double of what I am paying.
I don't feel like I need to have this wedding,
this is just the wedding I want.
But to each their own.
I know tons of people that have had really simple NYC weddings and still had to pay too much.
Amen Shorty.
But I don't think Ms Lunchbox was saying anything of the sort just curious.
EDIT
I would also like to say I dont know if this is a reason but personally I come from Italian heritage and my fiance is Indian.
I would say in my area this is very much the case with a lot of families.
Both of our cultures are used to big affairs with a lot of things.
Italians traditionally like tons of food,
and many courses.
I am from Italy and I would like to say the weddings there always have at least 4 courses even those with very small budgets
So maybe it's a heritage thing as well.
As we all know NYC is known for their Italian immigrants.
I do think its funny that you say why do they think the norm is 5 course meal,
etc but when we mention its in NY it normally to questions like "how much is a wedding"
but to those question there are tons of oh you can do a nice wedding on a thousand anywhere,
but you don't mention them,
and that it is strange that their normal which they are basing off of is a punch and cake reception in their local church.
Or maybe where you grow up that's the normal,
but to me it's strange.
Normally I believe I mention its in NYC,
just like others mention its in LA,
or Boston (I read these two very often also)
as a disclaimer that Joe in Idaho probably shouldn't base it off of our prices,
not to be rude.
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