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by suze orman
count your blessings -- and your
money
by suze orman
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i'd be the last person to tell
you that money can buy happiness,
but i'm fascinated by recent
reports insisting that money
isn't a major factor in
whether or not people are happy.
please.
positive psychology (that's
what academicians call the study of
human happiness) is a hot field of
research, and the folks at the
positive psychology center at the
university of pennsylvania have
come up with an interesting
questionnaire that's been
getting a lot of press.
yet nowhere in the 24-question
authentic happiness inventory does
the issue of money -- or, more
important, our desire for financial
security -- merit a mention. hmm.
a conspicuous omission
given how expensive our lives are,
how can money not be a factor? we
have huge mortgages and tapped-out
home equity lines of credit
weighing on us. college tuition
bills have never been more
daunting. our employers are less
likely to give us a defined benefit
pension, so the onus is on us --
and our 401(k)s -- to figure out
how we'll be able to afford
retirement. if we're lucky
enough to get health insurance
through our employer, the trend is
for each of us to be responsible
for a greater portion of the bill.
i would love to live in a world
where authentic happiness was
achievable solely from the richness
of relationships, but i'm a
realist. and the reality i see --
and that so many of you write to me
about -- is one in which money
plays into our ability to be truly
happy.
yes, i've heard about the
study of lottery winners that
showed they were not relatively
happier than those who hadn't
won the lottery, and the one
reporting that folks on the forbes
100 list (the wealthiest people
alive) weren't much happier
than the average american.
those studies show that being
filthy rich doesn't ensure
happiness, but that's not
something most of us have to
contend with.
i'm talking about how your
happiness is affected when
you're worried about how
you'll pay the bills at the
end of the month, save for the
future, and be able to afford to
retire. in other words, how
you'll make ends meet. when
those worries are your reality, i
think it's ridiculously hard
to be authentically happy.
happiness is income-sensitive
apparently, i'm not the only
one who thinks so. a survey
conducted earlier this year by the
pew research center reports that,
overall, just 34 percent of
respondents are very happy.
but when you start to slice the
findings by income, it gets very
interesting: 49 percent of
respondents with an annual family
income above $100,000 say they are
very happy. when income falls
between $75,000 and $100,000, the
very-happy contingent falls to 38
percent. just 24 percent of those
with incomes below $30,000 said
they were very happy.
i want to be quite clear: i'm
in no way saying that money is all
that matters. but i'm so tired
of how scared everyone is to admit
that money does in fact make a
difference in the quality of our
lives.
a family affair
most of you would probably say that
what makes you truly happy is your
family and the love you share in
your relationships, and i
couldn't agree more. but money
comes into play in those
relationships, too.
when i talk about money this way to
a group, invariably someone comes
up to me afterward and give me a
"tsk, tsk" look and says,
"suze, you are so wrong. money
isn't the key to life, this
is!" at which point their
wallet flies open and they show me
a photo of their family.
that's when things get
interesting, because i start asking
them questions: did you take that
photo with your own camera? it
looks like a beautiful beach; was
the photo taken on a family
vacation? are those braces i see on
the two teenagers? do you hope to
help those beautiful kids go to
college?
as their heads bob in successive
"yes" nods, i ask them
how they provide all of that for
their family. that's when they
understand that i had it right.
richer, but not happier
at the risk of repeating myself, i
totally agree that family and
friends are vital to our well
being; without meaningful
relationships, there's no
chance of ever being truly,
authentically happy. that's
why, every saturday night, i end my
cnbc show with the following words:
"people first. then money.
then things."
but money does have a place at the
table. if you don't have money
to buy things, you're going to
be very frustrated. it's just
that simple.
how we handle the money we have
also plays into our happiness. the
pew survey points out that over the
past few decades, the percentage of
americans who say they're
happy hasn't changed much (it
hovers at around one-third of the
population), while at the same time
the average per capita income has
doubled in inflation-adjusted
dollars. so we have more money, but
we're not much happier on
average.
a paradox? far from it. my sense is
that we while we're making
more money, we aren't making
more of the money we make. we have
a ton of debt, and we have to worry
about saving for retirement in a
way that our parents and
grandparents never did. and as many
of you know, it's really hard
to boost your happiness quotient
when you've got a lot of money
worries.
where are you on the
money/happiness scale?
do you agree, or am i way off base?
i'd love to know what you
think about the money/happiness
connection. so answer the following
questions and find out how you
stack up with your fellow readers
and happiness-seekers.
(please answer and submit your
response to one question at a
time.)
question 1:
money has absolutely nothing to do
with my level of happiness.
strongly agree
agree
disagree
strongly disagree
neither agree nor disagree
question 2:
money is a factor, though not the
only factor, in my happiness.
strongly agree
agree
disagree
strongly disagree
neither agree nor disagree
question 3:
i would be happier if i didn’t
have to worry about paying the
bills every month.
strongly agree
agree
disagree
strongly disagree
neitehr agree nor disagree
question 4:
i would be happier if i could
afford to save more money for my
long-term goals (such as buying a
home, paying for a child’s
college education, or retiring
comfortably)
strongly agree
agree
disagree
strongly disagree
neither agree nor disagree
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